National Friendship Day
Helen Keller once said that she would rather walk with a friend in the dark than alone in the light. Her statement reflects the importance of friendship. Close companionship is just as or even more critical than being sighted. I can relate. The friends that I have made over the years are so important to me. Friends who have helped me during those early days of my visual disability and are still around. Friends I made through work related situations. My book club friends. My blind friends. My writing friends. The list goes on and on. What would I do without the great and wonderful people in my life? Today, I give honor and appreciation for my friends. Today is National Friendship Day.
I tell you, dealing with this pandemic has made my friendships even more special. Even more precious. This virus has caused me to look closer at life and my own mortality. I remember when the pandemic first hit, I was calling and checking on friends. They were calling me too. It was so funny because I could hardly get any work done for my phone ringing and my email pinging. But I didn’t complain because I was grateful that someone cared about me. That someone was checking on me to see that I was okay and doing alright. And the thing is, we are still doing this over a year later. This pandemic is not over and we got to continue to stay close. To stay in each other’s lives.
Calling Friends on the Phone
So, how best to keep that connection going? Well, I use both old and new technology. I rely heavily on my handy dandy landline phone. Yes, I know, I am old-fashion and out of-date. But my landline phone works beautifully and I love it. It is so easy to pick up the phone and have a chat with a friend. Day or night. Weekday or weekend. It doesn’t matter. Hearing another person’s voice on the other end works wonders. It lifts the spirit. It puts me in a positive mood. It’s like a warm embrace or a tight hug-all through the phone.
But I also use my newer technology, my iPhone. Although mostly as an address book to store my friends contact information. I just ask Siri for their phone number and then dial it on my landline. I find it hard to talk on my iPhone because of its smooth flat surface. It slips too easily from under the crook of my chin. During conversations, my cheek gets warm and sweaty from the surface. This is not a good look or situation when I am trying to converse with a friend. Additionally, I haven’t found earbuds helpful yet. Maybe I should investigate that more.
Receiving Emails From Friends
When talking on the phone is not an option, emailing works well. Sending a quick note to check in or chat has been a great way for me to stay connected to my friends. Especially, those living away from me. I have friends I have maintained relationships with for years this way. We will send emails back and forth to see how things are going. How is work, the family, the weather, etc. It is so nice and heart-warming to get an email. It is nice to have electronic communication with another human being I have a close connection. Sometimes it takes time to type up the message, run spell check and read over for clarity. But it is well worth it because it is going to someone who is important in my life-my friend.
There are many other ways to stay connected to friends that I didn’t share. Text messages, social media, Zoom video calls, and even letters and greeting cards. But whatever method you use, I urge you to stay close.
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During these unprecedented times, it’s so important to stay in touch with family and friends. Here’s fellow blogger Empish Thomas to tell us how she does this.
Abbie, Thanks for sharing!
Totally agree with you on the importance of contact. As a senior I’ve noticed that as we lose friends, we are hesitant to form new relationships and become somewhat reclusive . Also some technology isn’t senior friendly. Libraries, church bulletins, and community newsletters are excellent sources to reach seniors , singles, disabled etc.
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Yes, all good points. When I became blind I notice that my friends were dying off more often. A friend told me it is just a part of being in the community. And sometimes I find it hard because of that. Reaching out requires being vulnerable. But I have no regrets because of the wonderful people I have met along the way.
The range of options you use to stay in touch with friends reminds me of my mom who also preferred her old fashioned landline and reluctantly went to email and cell phone. That’s why I was getting bombarded from way too many places with way too many requests from her friends, most of whom I don’t. I know some of them know each other but I don’t know which ones or how she stayed in contact with them or how they contact each other. I was then forced to tell everyone by every method that I could to check the weekly message I record on her landline for updates on both of us!
Figuring out communication styles is the one thing that can get complicated when staying connected. One person does phone, while another does email, and another does text. It can be hard but it seems like you have developed a little system for you and your mother.
“There are many other ways to stay connected to friends that I didn’t share. Text messages, social media, Zoom video calls, and even letters and greeting cards.”—I agree. Getting a letter in the mail would be a welcomed surprise for me.
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Yes, I use to write letters all the time many years ago especially when I went away to college. My friends and family would send me letters to my college dorm and later to my apartment. It was always so nice to get a letter in the mail. Ah, those were the days.
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